I hate winter, and all things wintry. I hate ice, snow, cold weather, warm coats, boots, and cleaning off my car. I must say that I don't hate photographing winter, but if I had to leave winter photos out of my repertoire, it wouldn't kill me. For years I lived in New England-18 years in Connecticut, and another 24 in Boston. I never complained about winter then. It was part of life, and I dealt. But the last almost 8 years in Tennessee have weakened my Yankee spirit, I'm afraid. So these pictures are for my friend, jo(e), who neither hates winter nor complains about anything, as far as I can tell
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
I am compiling a recipe book for my daughters. It will include some photos. Our family favorites will be in there, as well as dishes that work really well for parties. There will be a vegetarian section to make accommodating for vegan/vegetarian friends easier for them, although they both eat meat. This is a wonderful recipe for tabouleh, made from quinoa. It is SO YUMMY. It has just enough mint and just enough lemon juice to make your mouth surprised. We love it.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Back to the store with the camera. You want golden or russet? I'll bake 'em, steam 'em, casserole 'em...whatever you want.
Monday, January 25, 2010
Sunday, January 24, 2010
They have their differences: biological makeup, birth family circumstances, personality, needs.
They have their strong qualities: One is more academic, one is more artistic; one is more introspective, one is naturally funnier. They have their weaknesses, too. Very different.
Yet sisters, nonetheless. They have a deep and abiding love for one another that goes down to the soul. Younger Daughter would hear nothing of staying in bed when we went to the airport yesterday morning to deliver Older Daughter.
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Good Morning! Today my Older Daughter returns to Massachusetts for her last undergraduate semester. She hopes to spend her summer studying and working in Korea. Or Ohio. (?) Or even perhaps back here, at home. In September she begins working toward her MSW. Where did my baby go? It's only fitting that this day brings a beautiful sunrise.
Friday, January 22, 2010
The theme of Blog for Choice Day 2010 is TRUST WOMEN.
I write about choice from the perspective of one whose choices were a bit unconventional. I have never been pregnant, oh, not for lack of carelessness in my youth, but just because I have been lucky. I know, though, that had I found myself pregnant in my 20s, I would have been hard-pressed to have an abortion. However, that would have been MY CHOICE. Like it or not, our society is a patriarchy. Men: doctors, politicians, clergy, whoever, believe they have the right to make suggestions and demands about what women do with their bodies. The truth is, people don't trust women.
When I was looking to build a family, I had choices. I could have opted for donor insemination, I could have gotten pregnant by traditional methods, or I could adopt. I chose adoption because it felt right to me. I was single, and although healthy, I knew that if pregnancy left me incapacitated at all, I would run the risk of losing my job or worse: being alone and having to stay in bed, or not perform physical tasks that my single life called on me to perform. I had a very good friend at the time who was on 4 months of bed rest in order to carry her baby to term. What would have become of me?
But some people did not trust me with my own decision to adopt: it was too expensive, I didn't know what "kind" of child I would get, on and on. "Why don't you just be a foster parent? Then you could change your mind if it didn't go well." While I welcomed the support of my family, who were all wonderful, I was frustrated by others who acted as though I had not thought my decision out and weighed all the options.
My hope is that my daughters will also have the choice to build their families-or not-by choice. They must be trusted to make these important decisions about their own bodies and futures.
I don't feel very eloquent on the subject, but I feel very passionate. The choice must remain with the woman.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Shortly before his death, The Attorney's father and his wife took a European cruise-something they had done several times. When they returned, they gave her this crystal cat, reaching in the air. Neither The Attorney nor her father was a cat lover, so we thought the choice unusual. Yesterday I said I figured it was the piece with the most motion, and that was why they had chosen it. She cherishes this piece, as well as the other gifts he gave her during his lifetime. It sits on the mantel, back-lit now with blue lights. I should have dragged out the tripod and done it justice, and perhaps I will in the future.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
I volunteer my time at an organization called Hope House. There, we provide day care, counseling, parenting classes, housing, and a host of other services to children affected by/infected with HIV/AIDS. I serve on the Board, I organize donations from my colleagues, I work at special events, and until recently I rode the bus in the morning to pick the kids up for preschool.
On this MLK Day, I am grateful for the changes he made that enable me to be comfortable with my life.
This is my friend, "Little Bee." Her mother has given permission for her to be photographed and for her photo to be on the internet.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
I have always loved to watch my kids play basketball, and have been doing so for 16 years. Yesterday Younger Daughter had a game-they got trounced, but you can see by this photo taken after the game, that the loss didn't seem to dampen her spirits.
She's so grown.
She's so grown.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
The Courthouse is One Hundred. This staircase is irresistible when you have a camera around your neck. To celebrate the anniversary, an exhibit about The Attorney's father's law firm, the first integrated law firm in the Mid-South, is on display. We are so proud.
He would be very proud of her.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Birthday=Books in my world. I love to read, and am particularly fond of biographies. And although I realize they are not great literature, I love to read anything by John Grisham, especially on airplanes. Not sure why. This is the bounty from this birthday, with a couple of Christmas goodies thrown in. I cannot start on any of it until I finish The Brief and Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, which I am reading for my book club that meets once a month at our house. I have many presidential biographies, and am thrilled to add this book by Jimmy Carter about his mother to that stack.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
It is mandatory to wear this button on your birthday in our house. We have 2 or 3 of them (I think we started out with 5!) and we guard them with our lives. We take birthdays very seriously. I took this photo just now, with the morning light streaming in my fireplace room. We have a big fire roaring and The Attorney, my dear friend, Frannie, and I are drinking coffee and having wonderful conversation. Happy Birthday, everyone! Fifty Eight feels good.
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Friday, January 8, 2010
Thursday, January 7, 2010
I lived in New England from 1960 to 2002. I saw my share of "snow days." I had to find last-minute child care, I drove up and down perilous hills to my last home there, I shoveled, pushed, swept, scraped, and sanded snow.
This, my friends, is not a storm. This here? This is a DUSTING. Open the schools. Restock the grocery store shelves. Go to work, and get on with life. But enjoy the look of it for the one minute it's here. It is lovely.
And yes, I still have my Christmas lights out. I can't help myself.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
One of the great pleasures of my life is looking up to see what I can photograph above me. I love this sign. There are many wonderful things about Memphis, not the least of which is our up-and-coming downtown area. This lovely lady adorns a storefront.
I believe I would make a good tour guide.
I believe I would make a good tour guide.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Monday, January 4, 2010
This is my new favorite toy. You'll see more like this, I'm sure. The photo was taken in October at my fabulous brother's fabulous waterfront home in Rhode Island, but I just photoshopped it today, so as far as I'm concerned, it counts as today's photo. Hey, my blog, my rules, right?
This is my Older Daughter, with my great-niece, Doodle Bug. They are looking for pirate ships filled with booty to come down into the inlet and make us all rich. I love the tilt of Doodle Bug's head.
Sunday, January 3, 2010
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Today the tree ornaments came down. The lights are still up, and the cards, which I love, linger.
Here is a narrow shot of the mantel with a few of the cards showing-we got a lot this year-lots of photo cards of friends and family. Lovely!
Tomorrow, it's all down for the year. The cards will be saved in a zippered baggie. I cannot bear to get rid of them! I'll take them out next December and compare them to the updated ones.
I'm looking forward to this year.
Friday, January 1, 2010
I have worn the exact same style of sneaker for years-they're the only ones I can find that don't go up too far in the back for my poor tendons.
It's only fitting to throw out a pair on December 31st and crack open a new one on January 1st.
These were a Christmas gift from The World's Best Bleeding Heart Attorney.
Happy New Year, everyone!